The Pie Chart Of Sexy

The ‘Pie Chart Of Sexy’ is my favourite way to describe the elements necessary to be a good classique or stripper style pole dancer.

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As you can see, there are three aspects that I believe make up a successful performer. When I went to see The Authentic Pole Dance Competition this year there were great examples of all three of these traits, and even if you don’t excel in one aspect, making up for it with another showcases your strengths and shows that you are a unique and memorable performer.

Technique & Skill

Being able to execute your moves, transitions and tricks in a smooth and clean manner is definitely important to enhance your overall sexy allure on stage. Nothing makes a heart race like lovely, smooth wavy legs, a clean invert or a graceful transition. Although by no means the most important factor, working to ensure your routine is strong, flowing and ‘finished’ gives your performance a polish, meaning that there won’t be any minor errors or mistakes in your dancing to detract away from your sex appeal.

When you are rehearsing your routine or free styling, pay attention to the ‘little things’ such as your invert, transitions between tricks, climbing, and how you finish off moves (especially floor work). Try and extend through your limbs as much as you can, give your movements time to breathe by pausing in them, and look how your moves flow into one another.

Kitty Velour (@kitty_velour), Trap Queen and Elite performer in the upcoming Dance Filthy competition, offered up some great advice recently, explaining how to smooth out and get the most out of your dancing. She recommends imagining that you are a statue as you move from one pose to another, slowly and deliberately. Kitty explains that this technique helps you to learn how to control your movements, allowing you to refine your technique, after which you can vary the pace and add explosive and dynamic movement for extra excitement.

As you can see, Kitty pauses in her poses, giving the audience time to appreciate the shapes she is making, and to engage them with eye contact.

I love the statute imagery, and it is a really effective technique when you are learning sensual flow – so next time you are dancing give it a go!


Presentation & Aesthetic


By presentation and aesthetic do not be confused into thinking I refer to body type or any of that nonsense. Whether you are a skinny, mini minx or a big, bodacious beauty, you can be a sexy Goddess. When I refer to presentation and aesthetic I refer to your costume, makeup and the overall artistic vision your present in your performance and dance.

Make an effort in what you wear, tell a story in your costume and channel what inspires you. Are you a gothic mistress? A mesmerising snake charmer? A naughty teacher? Put together a cohesive and interesting visual feast for your audience, and it will help to enhance your sex appeal. If you struggle with this then read my post on how to find your sexy alter-ego HERE for some great tips and advice.

Confidence & Attitude

By far the most important aspect of your performance is the attitude and confidence that you bring to the stage. Engaging with the audience with eye contact and facial expressions is very important, and can make a real difference between your performance being simply entertaining, and mind blowing. People respond very positively to someone who projects confidence and self-love when they dance.

I give confidence and attitude the biggest portion of the pie because for me it is one thing I always notice when I watch other people perform. If they are nervous or insecure you can see it when they dance, and I feel like shaking them and saying ‘OH MY GOD YOU DID AMAZING!’. Embrace yourself and love yourself, and the audience will sense this when they watch you and they will enjoy watching you even more.

Find out my tips for improving your confidence and stage presence in THIS POST. Follow the tips to improve your stage presence and boost your self-confidence and you will find your dancing and performing improving. If you need help to improve your audience engagement and facial expressions check out THIS POST for information and examples.


Although I did not qualify for the recent Dance Filthy competition (errr have you SEEN the line up?! Those girls are fit as f*ck and well-deserved!), I did get a lot of really positive feedback for my entry. I was complimented a lot on my attitude and confidence, my audience engagement, and my presentation. Focusing on these aspects of your performance definitely gives your dancing a little extra something that you can use to entertain your audience and boost your sex-appeal.

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This is why I include them in my ‘Pie Chart Of Sexy’; sexy isn’t just one set cookie mold that you must fit in to, and as Tiff Finney shows in her recent Pole Theatre performance, sexy is whatever you want to make of it. Whether you are fat, thin, flat-chested, busty, tall, short, weird, male, female, gender queer, LGBT+, whatever – you are uniquely you, and uniquely sexy in YOUR way. You will notice that all of your favourite sexy pole dancers have one thing in common – they all ooze self-confidence, attitude, and a magnetic sensuality. Focus on these three aspects of pole performance and your sex-appeal will noticeably improve.

What makes you feel sexy? What is unique about you? Let me know in the comments, and until next time – Stay sexy! *kisses*


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