Today I am having a chat with Neda, aka Hijabiluscious on instagram. I first started seeing their posts in the Facebook pole groups, and their energy really drew me in. They seemed like a really positive person, with a great sense of humour. Now, I’ve started following them on Instagram and their videos and pictures are always popping up to inspire, motivate and advocate as a pole dancer doing it in line with their culture, religion and humour.
I wanted to ask them about their pole journey, their social media presence, and their personal relationship with the different aspects of pole.
We caught up over email:
Neda: I started in August of 2019. I’ve been a competitive swimmer most of my life, and wanted to try something new on the side. I was on ClassPass so I can try things without commitment, and the pole studio Luscious Maven came up just a mile from me. I thought, wouldn’t it be funny if a Muslim woman like me went? I went as a joke. But then I was so sore after class, that I wasn’t laughing anymore.
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I was informed that my hijab is not really hijab because my figure is showing. Since we all know it’s not one’s job to simply stop looking, I finally found a more appropriate way of dress. Thank you all for enlightening me of the error in my ways, I will continue to frolic in my newfound hijab #polesport #polefitness #polelove #pikachu
Join an activity that you are doing for yourself first. Not for the extra views or followers, but one that you will enjoy when no one is looking. Be patient with yourself, and really go at your own pace, then you will see how much you will progress and how confident you will feel respecting your own pace.
There are so many disciplines within pole, and they are all so fun. It’s important to find what you’re good at because it’s so gratifying. I don’t think it’s a must to try it all but it certainly does help with finding your talent. I love doing tricks in heels and exotic in private (Online class) because it’s a different muscle set and an intense cardio workout. I also learn how to feel sexy when no one is watching, because to me it’s empowering to be in touch with my femininity on my terms.
Yes because they see them as “stripper shoes” only. Of course heels have stripper origins, there’s nothing wrong with that. But it’s strange that people think I’m being a stripper just because I wear heels, even though no clothes are coming off. I know it’s just projection, it’s nothing new. But pole heels are so light and easy to dance in, and I’m also short so I get to feel tall and powerful in them too.
Figure out how to have structure during the day. But don’t deny that this is a stressful time, because it is. But luckily with technology, it’s easy to have a home workout. Even 10 minutes of crunches is better than nothing. So I recommend starting small and then building every day. As far as mental health, I’d say to not expect yourself to be super productive, because that’s how people end up feeling like a failure during this time. Acknowledge that this is all new, it’s a tragedy, and it’s going to take a while to adapt.
I used to be worried about the online backlash I got when I first started pole. But now when I look in the mirror and see how ripped I am, I know I have the power to punch people in the face if they ever tried to say any of those things to me in person. But they can’t. So if you’re scared of the response you’ll get from starting pole, just know it will give you the strength to punch your haters in the face as well.
Go and follow Neda on instagram for some regular laugh out loud, positive and enjoyable pole related posts!